Along the way to achieving a big dream, you will encounter opposition. Don’t believe me? If your dream is to create a business that will bring in more than a million dollars a year in profit, then say that out loud. In front of other people. Tell your family. Share your goals with your closest friends. What do you think they will say? “Good for you! You’ve always had great potential. I’m so happy that you are on the path to success with SEO Services!” Heck no! Most people will tell you that you’re getting too big for your britches. That your dreams are out of reach. That you are selfish to want more. That is the voice of resistance. Get to know it because it will show up at every step in your journey. It’s just a fact of life that we not only have to be prepared for, we really need to stop being so shocked when it shows up. I’m right here with you, so please don’t think I have all the answers. No one does. We know this is going to happen, and still when it does, it hurts, it can be confusing, and oftentimes, it can throw us off course.
Have you ever been moving toward your dream fast and then hit a brick wall of naysayers, criticism, internal duress, or even sheer terror? That happened to me. The closer I got to where I am today, someone or something reminded me to only go so far. Why do we do that to each other? Do we really think we’re helping each other out? We do this to friends, family members, and even strangers on social media or playground equipment whom we have never even met and have no clue about! Why do we do this? Is it because we really want to help someone, or could it be that we are so disgusted with where we are in life, we set out to correct someone else, believing it will make us feel better about ourselves? It never does. So we start feeling even worse, and we do it again to someone else and we feel worse, and it’s a vicious cycle!
The voice of societal resistance had been telling me to sit down, shut up, and be quiet since I was a little girl. I know the voice well. But I don’t have to listen to it, and neither do you.
And there’s an even bigger enemy we all face that has a louder, craftier voice that can be downright terrifying and even murderous in its assault! It’s our own voice of self-judgment. The words we often speak to and about ourselves really can be the most dangerous. Forget demons in hell and haters online; we are our own worst enemies most of the time. When we set out to do something unique and powerful and to rise above fitting in, it’s ironic that we don’t become our own best cheerleaders. Instead, we oftentimes become our own worst judges. For me, it was the voices of inadequacy and feeling undeserving that haunted me the most. “I didn’t have what it took, never would, and no matter how hard I tried, never could.” Beyond that, even if I did someday actually rise up to be equal or greater than the challenge, I wouldn’t deserve to see my dreams come true. I believed at the core of who I was that I deserved to fail, struggle, and even suffer.
The voice within is echoed by the voice of resistance from your environment. It will accuse you falsely, judge you harshly, and when you finally do well, will say you didn’t deserve it and aren’t allowed to go forward. Believe me, I know. The religious have rebuked me, leaders have attempted to sabotage me, my own heart was against me, my family sought to hold me back, and my own mind found a comfortable, quiet place to hide. In pain.
This war comes from both you and other human beings. It’s not some cosmic force or even demons from hell, as many would imply, but rather, it’s that enemy of champions who fears that the light and power they were given is far too great to carry. When our destiny comes face to face with fear in others, it will require forgiveness, patience, grace, kindness, and love to be all that we’re meant to be. When it cuts you deeply in the secret parts of your heart that no one has ever had access to, its poison could kill you. To protect ourselves, we must be mindful of the journey and process that it takes to actually go from where we are to where we want to be. Find new friends, create new social media profiles where you can be your truest self and attract the same. Remember, hiding in a box or boundary never created for you won’t help attract the people you were meant to do life with. Be brave and find your tribe! You deserve it.